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I was born tall and proud
with a golden spoon in my mouth. I was one of the privileged
Americans, who were raised in the continent of God’s creation -
When I was in college, I
realized that many African American women had no faith in marriage, so some
started their family early as teenage single mothers. They
claimed that marriage was for their European counterparts, because they had no
men of value to marry them. Instead of building value in
character and personality to secure a husbandly mate, it was more beneficial to
invest in their career, since they would most likely have to raise their
children themselves away from their sperm donors. Many of
them clearly stated that they would never find an African American man on their
economical and educational level. They publicly labeled
their men in magazines and conferences, as boys, sperms, big babies, penises,
and dogs. This was degrading for a man.
Despite the fact that I was raised in
I soon realized that the African American women were more interested in the consuming men. These men got all the women and sex they wanted, and helped to reproduce many of the next generation at a very early age. This blew my mind out of water because I was told growing up that the most productive men got all the women. Why so much value on consumers and dependence? I then noticed that many of the productive African American boys, were either single or had European, Hispanic, or foreign women of African descent as girlfriends. This was so disturbing that I had to inquire about it and I found out that the women felt that the productive boys were arrogant and felt that they were all that. I always thought women looked for men higher than they are, but according to the book “A Calabash Never Sinks”, a lot of our women look for men beneath them. I was not worried because I knew some day that I would find out why women who claimed that they could not find men on their level where more interested in consuming men that productive men, who were not only on their level, but sometimes higher.
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I left that job only to
realize that a good job that matched my qualification was hard to come by.
When ever I applied for a descent paying job in my field, expertise, and
salary range, I would never get a call. With time passing
by, I would apply for any job with less pay, just to get an interview and
ultimately pay the piling bills. Then, I noticed that I was
the most wanted employee in
How come our qualified women get jobs easily? They also get promoted and get to management positions very fast. From observation, they are usually in the human resources department. You would think that they will assist their qualified productive men get into these companies, but in reality, they usually ask the tricky and eliminating questions during the interviews. It has become obvious that they might be encouraged to play the “tough bad girl” role as part of their job, so that the rest can’t be labeled as “racist”. After all, they can not find men in their level to marry, so it is wiser for them to protect their career than assist a man who is a social nuisance to them. It has been said that since slavery days, while the man slave was in the field slaving away for days without food or clothes, the woman slave was in the house with the master’s family, eating and drinking the leftovers. American has transformed from a physical to a mental and information society, so the African American women now has access to the jobs and the income, while their men are either unemployed out of frustration or settle for incomes below their qualifications.
It then dawned on me that after all these years; the American cultural perspective of the Black man now came all together. The truth is that the productive and ambitious Black man has no place in the American labor force unless he wants to start a business of his own. Unconsciously, the African American women have long figured this out. She knows that he is most likely bluffing and isn’t going to get far, unless he can start his own business. Instead, she caters to the needs of the consuming and dependant partner, who neither has much nor can say much. She takes care of him, his needs, and his babies, which gives her a feeling of contributing or giving back to her society. To her, he is her future partner for social value and not necessary her “husband”. In the American unconscious psyche, the real Black man is a dependent consumer while the productive Black man is an outcast, even to his females at an earlier age. To the few productive Black men, who make it through the cracks of the labor force to top positions, they are usually powerless and toothless shadows, who are just grateful to be there. Many know that they do not deserve to be there and they will do nothing about the situation either.