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As an Anthropology student in
my undergraduate years, my professor clearly stated that in the
In the old times, before Christianity became a global force, polygamy was the order of the day. The wealthier class showed off their wealth through elaborate wedding ceremonies, while the lower class practiced it by conjugation. This was where the community, including the woman and her family, agreed that any woman you had been with or had a baby for you was your wife. In both cases, there was not necessarily a marriage certificate. The community, especially the families of the involved, only had to be aware. Polygamy was normality for the wealthy class. It was used to build strategic multiple alliances and maintain resource control. It was also an efficient way to guaranty a profitable labor force and life insurance through the children. A high number of women brought high numbers of children. At a time of primitive health care and high infant mortality rate, it was also a guaranty that some of the children will reach adulthood to cater for their parents. All the parents had to do was make sure their surviving children were well placed in society through their alliances. Some lower class people also practiced polygamy for pleasure and as a tactical disguise to pass off as wealthy. This was usually very counterproductive because the family usually fell apart due to lack of adequate economic and political alliance, but they were some lucky ones.
So polygamy actually, is when
an individual is having more than one close or sexual relationship at any given
time or in sequence with or without a marriage certificate.
It is a relationship that is not committed to one person. It
could be a woman with many men, a man with many women, or all forms of
homosexual or bisexual relationships that are multiple.
Adultery and multiple fornications are also forms of polygamy, with or without
children. Marriage certification is usually used by the
legal systems in the modern societies for taxation and inheritance purposes.
It is revenue for the government and not meant to promote love or
happiness in a marriage. Marriage was a union or
association between two or more people, which was recognized by their families
and their communities. So if you are an individual in
multiple relationships, whether your lovers know it or not, you are a practicing
polygamist. If you have multiple relationships that are
obvious to all, including your lovers, then you and your lovers are official and
paramount polygamist. Polygamy does not need to be
legalized; it will always be with us. Polygamists only get
punished in the
Before the power of the
church became a force to be reckoned with in
The Political & Spiritual Purpose of the
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As a Christian, I can not strongly oppose those who practice polygamy. Not only was polygamy recorded as early as Genesis 4 in the Bible, but many great role model in the Bible, such as David, Solomon, Jacob (Israel), and Abraham, were clearly polygamous. Many Christians would encourage us to focus on the New Testament, but it is not detailed enough to tell us the real life relationships of the characters. The New Testament was more interested in the Christ and the establishment of the church. Characters like Jesus, John the Baptist, and Apostle Paul were not even married, but they spoke against adultery. Aside from Paul encouraging workers of the church to have one wife, Jesus never addressed it. Jesus did encourage the certificate of divorce under the new Roman rule, but never address number of spouses.
Homosexuality and bestiality
never really made any sense to me morally, socially, biblically, economically,
or politically. It was originally a relationship that
occurred among the powerful in private and secret organizations, among
individuals who had occupation of celibacy, and individual who had distant or
seasonal careers away from home that did not have adequate access to the
opposite gender. It was a practice of initiation and
belonging to some, and it was a practice of convenience and support to others.
The coming of monogamy law of the church further reduced these practices
to private obscurity. With the liberation and empowerment of women, which is a
good thing, women are now more demanding in their requirements for a
relationship. Due to this pressure and other modern societal
demands, many men, and some women, have decided to reduce the importance of
traditional marriage. Some even decided to eliminate it.
Many in this category with time begin to form conjugal and polygamous
relationships with the opposite gender, either one after the other, or about the
same time. Some begin to realize that the company of the
same gender is very pleasurable, especially if they tend to complement each
other in alleviating the conditions of their social concerns.
So if you have been with more than one person in your life, you have
practiced polygamy before, especially if you are married to more than one of
them, or one of them is not or will never became your spouse.
In regards to legalizing homosexuality
or considering it a sickness or a crime, I will let the people of the land,
which includes the Christian perspective, to decide that. If
we look at it from a political and legal point of view, which is marriage
certificate for taxation and inheritance, I believe we all have rights, but from
a humane perspective, I stand with the church and the Bible.
In Genesis 19, when the men of the city went to sodomize the male guests of Lot,